Decisions, Decisions, decisions: tips for making confident decisions

It All Begins With an Evolved Mind

When making a final decision, do you decide quickly or take time to weigh all possibilities? Personally, I struggled with decision-making and following through. I'm learning to be precise in my thoughts and decisive, as it's important. However, I've realized there's no exact method for important decisions, and it's crucial not to rush or be impulsive. The key lesson is to stick with your decisions and be true to your word. In this series, we'll discuss the importance of decisiveness and offer tips for making important life decisions.

Growing up, I wasn’t the most confident person.  I worried too much about what people thought of me, and it affected the way I interacted with people, including the choices I made.  I often avoided sharing my true feelings, appearing flaky and indecisive. For instance, I'd agree to plans to avoid disappointing family or friends but would later back out. At the time, I was going through a lot of depression and anxiety, and I wasn’t always transparent about what I was going through, which led to these decisions that were made and ultimately made me unreliable. Many can relate to these feelings, which is why I discuss this topic. My traits only changed after facing difficult trials, leading to my life-changing moment. No matter how many books I read, or church services I attended, or even surface changes I made, nothing changed until I wanted it with every essence of my being, and was willing to work towards it.

As I began to awaken and transform, I focused on my mindset and thought process. I began identifying the negativity embedded in my mind and began making intentional changes. I replaced disempowering words with empowering ones, like ‘I can’t’ to ‘I need to learn how to,’ or ‘I forgot’ to ‘I need to remember.’ I embraced optimism by seeking solutions rather than dwelling on problems. Viewing challenges as learning opportunities boosted my confidence. While I still have challenging moments, my improved mindset helps me recover quickly, reflecting my evolving confidence and decision-making. I would suggest to begin reflecting on what you desire to change within your mindset, and begin implementing a plan on how to improve your throught process which will led to the way you make decisions.

Every Decision-making Process is Individualized

As my mind became more focused, I started making better decisions by understanding that my decision-making process is personal. This journey is about self-discovery, rooted in truth and honesty with oneself. For over 30 years, I didn't fully know myself because I prioritized pleasing others. Once I embraced self-love and authenticity, I found freedom and accountability. This is a big element of inner change, and a topic I discuss in more detail in my book (a work in progress). Saying I believed in God and Jesus wasn’t enough; I also needed to believe in myself. Which one cannot exist without the other, in my opinion. Believing in God and oneself are intertwined and create balance in decision-making. When we are living a balanced life, at least working towards remaining in balance, we are then centered enough to make complete decisions. Let me tie in how balance affected my decision-making. When I began working on regaining my balance, one area that needed help was finances. I needed to learn how to make better financial decisions. My desire is to become financially free in order to live life debt-free and prosperous. So that meant changing how I looked at financial stability. I began learning budgeting techniques and learned how to follow through with our rules. So when I would go out, I would decide ahead of time what I was planning to purchase, including material purchases that were not necessities, and how much I was able to spend according to our weekly budget. Once that decision was made, I would not deviate from it. This change was significant for my family and me. We slowly got out of debt, and we began enjoying the money we were earning. Similarly, the same process took place regarding our health. I spent a lot of time studying health and learning about the foods we eat or shouldn’t eat, and we began making changes to our health. This led to giving up foods we grew up eating and grew accustomed to, which we were truthfully addicted to. This wasn’t impulsive either — this took time. We made gradual dietary changes, transforming our lifestyle and mindset. It all started with a decision — the cleaner our minds and spirits became, the cleaner our bodies were becoming too. If you are interested in our health journey, visit my Food for Thought Section.  I'm sharing these examples to highlight the importance of accountability and follow-through in decision-making. My decision-making process involves writing things down and setting goals with my husband, which helps with accountability and intentionality. For example, if I decide to spend no more than $200 on groceries, I adhere to it, emphasizing being decisive and intentional.

This approach was effective for my family and me. We developed a plan and followed through. What is your approach? You might already have one and just need to let it unfold, or you may need to create a process that aligns with your traits. Whatever it is, always remember to be genuine and sincere. People will respect your decisions, even if they may not agree at times, because it demonstrates your dependability and reliability. Being trustworthy is an important attribute.

As we progress through this series, we'll focus on each aspect that guides us toward becoming decisive. Our next topic will explore how our life principles affect our decision-making process. I invite you to subscribe to our email alerts below to get our posts delivered directly to your inbox. Additionally, feel free to leave a comment below. I look forward to hearing from you and connecting with you.

May your greatness shine ✨

Until next time 😊